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@interfluidity That is correct, but i would rather point to our collective acceptance of the level of danger the specific rules and existing cars pose, not the cars themselves.

Even though most parking spaces are not practical for SUVs, those become more common here, too. Just as a second remarkable thing beyond the speed limit topic.

The deaths surely scale with both, and both could not be if a majority would not accept it.

I'm thinking mainly of what peaceful, nonviolent protest i have read about - environmentalists letting air out of the tires of SUVs, without destroying them. A rare occurrence. And even less would probably make a difference, like communicating to suv owners that this is unethical if they don't need the car for the specific offroad purpose.

It's not the cars, it's us, giving in to convenience.

@interfluidity This joke did not age well. Just a day after i wrote it, someone was a buzzkill.

Brings me back to how we have such dangerous things (cars) and how we arbitrarily set what level of danger (for example speed limit) for convenience. Acutally safe would get nobody anywhere.

The directed killing (likely here, but not definitely clear yet) makes a big news splash, but we die by the thousands (2800 traffic deaths in germany 2023) in accidents.

@PippiPunkstrumpf Puh, dass es die Todesstrafe überhaupt gibt dort. Dass überhaupt irgendjemand da freiwillig wohnt.
Absurd.

@OpenComputeDesign If she felt like she needed to make sure, why did she feel that way? Are your parents possibly that draining? What are you doing to deal with it, could you expect the same from her?

@OpenComputeDesign I have secrets i do not talk about. Those are pretty constrained in nature, about myself. I can sling mud about anyone around me if i want to. Not that i would want to, but i could.
Might your trauma be a secret you wish to conceal? Might accepting that shit was bad shake your foundation of how life is?

@OpenComputeDesign Point would be why would she do that, not if you saw her.
Any possible reason? You said your dad did some things he should not have, might that have done anything?

@LeslieBurns Never marry, got it.

@OpenComputeDesign So you say nothing happened, then she told cps she tried to hang herself, and you heard nothing from her?

Come on...

@OpenComputeDesign Another way of saying this:
If you had not been wronged, how can it be you cannot talk about it?

Your demeanor is that of a dependant. You dance around everything, you never ascertain anything. You don't get that way if your parents or surroundings are not abusive.

Do you value truth? Say what happened, as it is.

@OpenComputeDesign Your own fate should tell you everything you need to know about what saying stuff one should not say can do. Still, i see no reason to trust your parents over your sister.

If it is hard for you to give me this information, might that validate your sisters suit? What does your trouble of talking about this say about it?

Should a person not be able to express their thoughts?

@OpenComputeDesign So, what kind of stuff? Saying stuff he should not have, like "Ass" or "fuck", or slight physical discipline, like lightly spanking the butt? Or sexual abuse, inserting his whatchamacallit?

@OpenComputeDesign Your not well adjusted self paints this as a lie. If there was no trouble, you would easily dismiss this, worry about what your never close sister does, and live on without much trouble.

Is it that much more trouble to admit what has been done to you than lying about nothing being wrong?

After all, if nothing was wrong, we never would have started talking.

Do you think the crime done would shake me?

@OpenComputeDesign There is a wtf-sized gap in this.
If your parents should not be jailed, what did they do that reasonably makes your sister want to break free but unable?

@OpenComputeDesign I know little about what is going on, but if your sis has a court case against your parents... what is your stance? And for what reason?

@OpenComputeDesign maybe you should take the time to listen next time. She surely can tell you more than i ever could.

Consider this: if i convinced you the world was a pig running around a skatepark, and your sister told you she buffed her toe, what would be more important?

Whatever happens, be a nice older brother. Whatever has been done to you, if she runs away, she can lead the way.

@OpenComputeDesign After all, you cannot let go of something you don't see.

@OpenComputeDesign Dude, you are a beacon of "this is not ok". You might cope, but that is just because you are great. Does not mean anyone else should go through that.

List what has been done to you. You'll need that list to work through when you come back from the denial.

Keep checking what changes, the list might be confusing :-)

@OpenComputeDesign Who would consider you a witness? It sounds a bit like a court hearing, is there legal action?

@godpod Funny. Would be so much funnier if we caught the real god so it could answer for its crimes ^^

@OpenComputeDesign Another take: you thought she would move out "normally". Why? If someone is - by what you say - desperate. what makes you think it is "normal"?

I sure did not need to clear out from my parents urgently. All that you describe points toward her being the only one with any sense in your family.

What is it that your parents do that drives people away?