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Unpopular Opinion:
Saying someone is X years young is just a way of saying they are so old and decrepit you feel like you are insulting them by even uttering their age without trying to offset this by saying young instead of old.
The day people start referring to my age in this way is the day I know im an old geezer.
In my view, age is nothing. Mindset and the value a person show to others matter.
value maybe not a good word here, I mean vision and attitude.
@Sphinx @freemo @codepuppy True. Importantly, there's no guarantee that people mature forward in time: sometimes people can actually regress and be less wise and less responsible at an older age than before. Often that's just during certain periods, like after a divorce or car accident but for some it's lasting.
@airgoa @Sphinx @freemo I've noticed that too
I wonder if it might have to do with understimulation / underappreciation / etc.; like if they think there's no point in being mature or etc. because their voice won't matter in an organization or relationship or etc., then perhaps they don't put effort into trying to be.
@codepuppy @Sphinx @freemo I think the reasons for regression and immaturity are really diverse, depending on both person and circumstance, and while it can be specific to a context it's often a pervasive personality change.
I think you're onto something in terms of roles of responsibility. Having agency and being responsible for things that affect others seems to promote maturation and I imagine the reverse is likely true. I suspect that the way a lot of welfare programs are devised they might actually create that problem, come to think of it.
I've also seen people react to certain traumatic events that way. It's not so much about the trauma itself but how people deal with it, and the build-up of toxic emotions like anger, resentment and self-pity.
I wonder how much people's jobs, friends and family affect their response to hard things too. Feeling supported but also not encouraged to indulge in harmful framing and ideation, and being brought into real world responsibilities might help people experience post traumatic growth, which is the normal response, rather than regression.
