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I think I discovered a superpower of mine: I'm quite anonymous. I usually have to introduce myself 2-3 times as people don't remember ever meeting me before, and I manage to hang around the same places for a while without anyone saying 'hey, I know you'. If something, I got ask 'hey, are you new here?'. That's so amazing.

My questions for the fediverse are:

* any idea on how to properly test this feeling, like in a good experiment?

* thoughts on how to improve this power of mine?

@arteteco usually the best way to practice it is at parties you were not invited in.
Unfortunately I'm quite recognizable and lasts pretty short time until they realize I'm there stealing pizza slices from the buffet

@etherealsolkatt
Great idea, only problem I.see is that in a party where everyone kniw each other someone more anonymous may stand out. I'll give that a try nonetheless, worst case scenario I can get free pizza!

@arteteco
I used to think this. Then I discovered more people recognized me and knew about than I realized. Most people are just hesitant to reach out and build on that connection and that's ok. But sometimes, with a little help, you can strengthen that little thread of recognition

@dantheclamman
Mmhm, how would I go to understand if I really go unnoticed or is just in my head, you reckon? A few days ago I introduced myself to a person *for the sixth time*. And she didn't remember me at all.

To make myself clear, I find it awesome. Would like to improve it, if there are ideas on the how to

@arteteco
Well that person will probably remember you now. I am fairly introverted so I tend to be a wallflower. But I realized I was wrong to think that being reserved meant I didn't have a presence. Mostly I observed that others knew things about me they could only learn from talking to other people!

@arteteco
I would suggest asking a close friend what they've heard about you!

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