Differences in Defending Yourself and Defending others (Psychology)
"I will defend others to the death, but for my self I might let bullying happen or be treated badly". (so for others defend but not defend self half as much)
A lady told me this, that for others she'd defend or go the extra 10miles (even unnecessarily) but not stand up for herself / take being spoken to badly.
For me this taps into a regularity I see with people (combination of low self-esteem / high insecurity but for others wanting to please / be looked well upon so works differently in different situations)
Something about human nature in that; pleasing others but then not knowing how to command one's own ship / being afraid of standing up and potentially being in a fight about one's self-respect (which a female may feel the lesser for many physical and psychological reasons)...
Females mostly (or males inversely can think they can do things but it's false self-esteem / overkill).
Also in terms of attack and defence people are often quick to defend others (correctly and incorrectly) but for themself might go into self-doubt or depression, worry etc. This more person combat I think creates adrenalin and nervousness whereas externalising it or repenting others moral is comparably easy.
@freeschool
This reminds me of the thought experiment:
> How would you proceed if you would have to fire someone?
Lots would answer that they would make the environment soothing and start off with comforting and positive vibes before giving the bad news.
While when the question is asked the other way around
> How would you like to get news of being fired?
Most people would say that they would like to get it in a straightforward fashion.
Thus we assume that others can't handle the same pain that we can.
