@847swingers Hi, I'm glad you picked the fediverse as a new home. I am the Founder of QOTO.org

QOTO however is a place for STEM professionals and not well suited for sexual connections or swinging. Though if you happen to be a STEM professional who is here to be around other STEM professionals and just happen to be a swinger you would still be welcome.

I suspect, however, that STEM is not what brought you here in any sense. If I am correct in that then I can say you found the wrong place. There are other instances in the fediverse devoted to nudity, sexwork, swingers, and similar lifestyles. I suspect you will have much more success at one of these instances. Check out switter for example.