I don't have friends. It's funny to think how difficult it is to make new friends once you're in your 30's. Why do we make friends easily when we're young, and why is it difficult when we get older? Any thoughts?
@Vishsai my take: we have trust issues when we get older, and we don't open up to people. This is not the case in our childhood and teen years.
That's my experience too. People get busier, you meet them in work situations only, it's acquaintances mostly, and even those we lose as we move on, change places or jobs, etc.
@raining_night age just a number, you can still try
@raining_night you cab start with me 
@iamvikas Thanks. Happy to have you as my friend 😊
but i was talking about "real life friends" in my toot.
@raining_night ahh, hope you will get your soulmate ;) soon
@raining_night I’m in my 40s and I’m dying. It gets worse.
@raining_night
When we're younger everything is shiny and new, and we have to try stuff out. Other kids our age are also trying stuff out, so we strike up relationships with them.
As we get older, (as in older than 30's) we become much less interested in trying out new things, so meet fewer people.
e.g. Wife knows someone at work whose husband plays at an open mic almost every wed. night. "You and your husband should come. He can bring his guitar and participate too." We did, and I did. I had a good time, went back several times. Cataracts make driving at night difficult, so as winter came on, and it got darker earlier and earlier, and the temperatures got colder and colder, I found it harder to work up the ambition to go out.
The applause is nice, but sharing the embodiment of the song is primary. Making new friends isn't even a part of the reason I'm there. Sure, I make conversation here and there, but not with any intent to form new relationships. If that's also true for most others there, it's little wonder new friendships don't get formed.
"It's difficult to make friends..."
Maybe because we're not even really trying? Maybe friendships are "worth it" when we're younger, but as we get older, they seem more trouble than they're worth?
@sda "may be because we're not even really trying" - good point. I agree. Perhaps my question should've been "why are we not trying to make new friends as we get older?". And i can see you've answered that as well 🙂 👍
@raining_night I see you have a person riding a motorcycle as your avatar. Is that you? If yes, have you ever attended a local 'bike night'? You'd find many people with at least one similar interest. Traithlon is another way to meet many people. Join a local club and you'll meet many: Swim/Bike/Run!
@alexchejlyk I'm part of a biking group in WhatsApp. But mostly i do solo rides. In the past 1 year I've done only one group ride. Somehow i don't feel connected with those people - mainly because most of them have a different mother tongue than mine. But your suggestion is a good way to make new friends, i agree.. thanks 😊
@raining_night I was also more of a solo rider when I had bikes. Groups would do things like wheelie down the street and I wasn't into that. I prefered quiet twisty roads where I could get a knee down. I see that you like tennis. Have you ever tried triathlon? Great fun and you start by just trying to survive the distance. Later on you compete with your own times. The community is phenomenal. Most people just want to help get you where you want to be.
@alexchejlyk That's interesting. I don't know how to swim, but i can definitely do the running and cycling. i googled triathlon to see if there are any events in Bangalore, the place where i live. No events seem to come up. I have seen some marathon events happening here, but too lazy to join those 😃😔 Thanks for the suggestion, though 🙏
@alexchejlyk and I'm not the one in my profile pic. I just downloaded that pic from google. But i do own that same model motorbike.
@raining_night I get you brother. Think as we grow older we more selective on what bullshit we can and can't handle. Though if there is something else am all ears.