Sigh, this video is totally relatable for me...
The Silent Dinner:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IkE-FVkvsl4
Especially the 'I'll tell you later' happens far too often, and of course they've all forgotten about the conversations by then.
My solution as a kid was to bring books to the table. 'You cannot read during dinner', fuck you, I'll read whenever I damn well please. I'm not playing dumb and getting bored to tears just for your sake. If needed be I'd smuggle one on my lap.
I also always asked to leave the table as soon as I was done eating. When thinking back now, I wonder if this is why I always eat my dinners so fast. The faster I finished eating, the sooner I could do fun stuff.
#Deaf #SignLanguage
This is sad. I'm sorry you had to endure that as a kid. I hope it's better now.
I never understood that the phrase "I'll tell you later" actually means "I don't want to tell you", until someone explained it to me clearly.
I noticed your profile says you also have ASD. That must have been difficult for psychologist to diagnose with the confounding social dynamics of being deaf.
@Pat I wasn't diagnosed with asperger's until far into my 20's. But that's not that special because it's a high functioning form of autism which can be pretty good at disguising that one has autism. Heck, even I didn't know it until properly diagnosed.
It does however, in hindsight, explain some of my behavior as kid. Extremely stubborn and I had my own perception of reality.
I still have, heh.
>"Extremely stubborn and I had my own perception of reality."
There's a lot of that going around these days with neurotypicals, too.
In the US, the DSM-5 eliminated asperger's as a separate condition and have folded it into the ASD spectrum, but some psychologists still use the term. Internationally it is still a separate diagnosis.
There is so much more that we need to learn about autism and I think until the neurological mechanism is understood to the point that diagnosis can be done with more objective measures, such as brains scans or chemical analysis, they will continue to struggle with how to classify it and diagnose it and treat it if necessary.
@trinsec
Very sad, this video! You'd think relatives of a deaf kid would speak *some* sign language, or at least repeat or translate stuff.
I've been hard of hearing for a few years as a kid myself, and it was as if people were always whispering around me on purpose. After a while I thought everybody was laughing at me, making fun of me. I still have trust issues and I'm very defensive if I'm not careful.
I can somewhat imagine what it is like for you, but this video gave me an extra insight. Thank you for sharing 👍