A few weeks ago there was a young woman on the bus, she was crying and clearly upset, clutching her phone. At one time, she would have been asked if she was OK. As men we are now to terrified to get involved, so I simply ignored her, perhaps she was really upset, wanted help, or it was an act to catch out unsuspecting MEN so she could make some sort of false alegation, who knows.
Is this the society people want or do they want a more caring society, where people can ask if you are OK because they actually care or are concerned.
Next time I see a person (esp female) in distress, I will ignore them.
With respect, I think a lot of men know that we shouldn't make comments about women's breasts, but still feel unsure what compliments are okay to make. This does not make us creeps or bad people—we are just socially awkward. It's unkind to imply otherwise.
My rule is that I just never compliment a woman on her appearance. At all. Unless it's my wife, of course.
This is not out of resentment—it just doesn't feel safe to ever say anything about a woman's appearance.
Meanwhile the man who puts the podium up out side No 10 downing street when the PM is going to make an announcement is described as a 'hunk' as is the equerry for the monarch, as are others surely this is also SEXIST, as surely in the interest of equality this should work BOTH ways.
Granted this is the daily fail, as they also seem to focus on describing a female tennis player as 'hot' but hot in a sexual meaning (or I interpret that) rather than hot as in a potentially or a upcoming great player. You can tell as they are more focused on that players figure, rather than simply their playing ability.
@zleap @petpet @efi They may be a better judge of when this is appropriate than I am. I’m not saying it’s never okay.