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While I completely understand why a person may not be attracted to someone for a superficial reason like too short, too talk, small boobs, small dick, they stutter, they have that lazy eye, whatever the thing is that isnt for them.
What I DONT get is why people feel compelled to completely destroy what small shred of confidence the person might have by making fun of it.
Are humans really that far gone?
@freemo People are sometime garbage. Those sorts often build themselves up on the rubble of others.
They've got less going on, and their self-confidence is boosted by damaging another's. They're like parasites, but less fun.
@Surasanji @freemo I don't particularly understand how people can have fun leaching off of others like that. It just doesn't make sense to me. Not those who do it intentionally. There are some who don't do it intentionally, but it's how their biological energy fields are set up.
@cambridgeport90 Very little of what humans do make sense to me.
Now dogs, they make perfect sense. When they charge full speed across the house jumping 5 feet nto the air so they can jump over the couch rather than add the 0.05 seconds needed to go around it all to get to that piece of sausage they just saw out of the corner of their eye.... now that is relatable :)
@freemo @Surasanji agreed. Not to mention, dogs are also pretty good at literally keeping humans alive. Rather interesting story that my friend told me. Couple of weeks ago.
@cambridgeport90 @freemo It makes sense to me, in the way that I can see where such toxic people are coming from. It's not a place of health and wellness, but I understand it.
Some people, and I'd say this is a small percentage of the actual population, seem to think that if you have something they see as a deficiency than you have no right to be proud or confident in yourself.
These people also seem to overlap with those people in the population that think 'Respect' means being treated like a superior instead of Respect as being treated as a thinking, feeling person with the right to be treated like a person.
These are a group of people who are, in their most secret place, so very fragile that they can't imagine others finding strength regardless of one's flaws because they struggle so hard to find anything of worth within themselves that they're forced to build their sense of self on pointing out other's flaws.
@Surasanji @freemo very true. I've known some of those people in my past. The ones who think they know everything.
@cambridgeport90 @freemo When I was in my mid teens, I was one of those teen-aged know it all types. I was the kind of person who was so insecure that I hurt others in an attempt to feel better.
It might have been a symptom of the 'year of hell' that would come when I was 17 and my Bipolar disorder rose like a demon.
But, I still think about that kid. Smart, quick, Straight -A Student, good at almost everything he picked up.. and an insufferable douche bag.
It's taken me a very long time to come back from my breakdown at 17. I don't know if that Dave in the past would ever be happy. Part of it was being a shitty teenager, but some of it was really who I would become if things didn't change.
They did, big time, and I think I'm a better person now- but I had to suffer a whole heck of a lot to get there.