@freemo @LouisIngenthron @luna I don't think it's necessarily anti-trans to think there's a proper way to use grammar, although if someone's pedantic within this particular context, then it might be irksome.

Someone quibbled with me once over "they", because that wasn't proper English, although that was around a decade ago.

No one does it to me now, although maybe I just interact with people who're somewhat nice.

I've always found a utility to it. When you're on the Internet, who knows what someone's gender is. It never made sense to me to assume everyone's a "man".

Since some feel more comfortable being addressed with it, that's another good attribute for it.

That makes a lot of sense to me too. Perhaps, someone isn't comfortable with either the she / he pronoun, or a particular gender role.

Language is an evolving thing, and maybe, there isn't a fixed way to do things, but I can see why you'd want a consistent standard for many things in a professional setting.

@olives

As I said in my response to this person, I have absolutely no issue with the claim that "proper english" is sometimes used against trans people when discussing pronouns...

The issue is that is so peripheral to the discussion, which wasnt about pronouns at all, as to be absurdist to equate what I said to the issue at all.

@LouisIngenthron @luna