eqyo @eqyo@qoto.org

Well this is a bit frustrating...

Maybe I should make an alternate account on another server? I'm fairly confident that most instances that object to qoto would not object to me.

(nevermind because this reply will never arrive; I forgot I have made an "interesting life decision" with my instance choice)

@adversary
First of all let me say this has been interesting to read, and this misuse of the term "biological essentialism" that you describe seems rather concerning.

However, I don't understand your argument that *every* project that uses the ConCov is automatically hostile to intersex people.

There seem to be quite a few projects that have picked the ConCov just because other projects use it and the text itself seems okay, without any considerations regarding its history being a factor.
I would think each such project makes its own choices in how to interpret the document, and many would choose an intersex-friendly interpretation. If intersex people raise concerns I would think such a project would usually choose to just add intersex to the protected categories of people, rather than go with this very strange abuse of the term "biological essentialism".
Or at least, I would hope so.

A pattern I hope to avoid in the future is getting myself into a jetlag-ish loop, where I stay up very late one time and then return to going to bed on time every night but consistently don't fall asleep until 3 or 5 AM, then wake up in the morning but feel very tired and stay in bed for many hours.

If I notice this happening, I've found it helps me to stare at a bright light in the morning.
As I understand it the biological clock adjusts itself when it's light, which signals that it's day, but it does not take the absence of light as a signal that it's night.
So if I understand that correctly then it's logical that going to bed on time does not by itself shift the hours in which my body will sleep.

Completely unrelated except not: I saw the movie "C'mon c'mon" and really fucking liked it

It's not a logical necessity that parents scar their kids.

The way I saw this argued somewhere is that parents are either capable of 'saying no' to their children or they are not, hence either your parents hurt you or you never grow up leading to you hurting lots of people including yourself.

The problem here is that this 'saying no' mixes in both harmful parenting techniques and good ones.

Good parenting involves saying no to your child in a way that does not scar them.

One very important thing here, in my view, is parents having real conversations with their children in which the parent allows themself to be vulnerable.

@aebrockwell Thanks.

I'm quite heavily involved in my local church which makes it hard for me to separate things in that way. Basically my problem is that I like my church but it's also where I'm surrounded by true believers who think I am also a true believer.

One of the main reasons I made this account was to be able to rant anonymously about my difficulties with christianity (the "semi-agnostic churchgoer" bit in my pinned intro is very much real I'm afraid)
... which I haven't really done yet at all. I hope to write a bit about this soon-ish but it's kind of difficult and confrontational to put into words. This 'faith crisis' of mine is something I don't really talk about irl

@benkirssen
Kan best zijn dat het in dit ene geval "naar tevredenheid" was, maar laten we wel wezen: in een relatie tussen een volwassene en een puber is er sprake van een groot machtsverschil wat meestal slecht uitpakt voor de jongere (hoeft de volwassene geeneens kwaadaardige bedoelingen voor te hebben).
Dus dat het in dit geval goed ging wil niet zeggen dat het een goede beslissing was van die volwassen man.

Ik snap het niet zo goed want de meeste van je posts lijken in de trant te zijn van "veel pedofielen realiseren zich heel goed dat seks of een relatie met een minderjarige een slecht idee is en houden zich daar verre van" (een punt dat ik op zich zou kunnen zien), terwijl dit in mijn ogen meer richting goedpraten daarvan gaat.

Had a very stressful end of semester, then a holiday deliciously empty of stuff to do. Went a bit overboard on my media consumption though, so my sleep is kind of screwed up again. Anyhow, I feel pretty okay going into the new year.

I've got two new year's resolutions: be gay and do crime (translated: pursue romance and maybe try weed)

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tue-wed:
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wed-thu:
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thu-fri:
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fri-sat:
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sat-sun:
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sun-mon:
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and last night:
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Bit of a setback yesterday... *looks at clock* Oh I had better stop right after pressing the toot button huh

last night:
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1 october, whoops...

My sleep schedule has been absolute crap as of late, and my not updating this bedtime log is related to that. Kind of defeats the point of course

(The silly maths jokes will continue until I stop coming up with them)

This statistics course is weird. So many odd moments...

One occurred just today, while the teacher was explaining that a centered normal variable is uncorrelated with its own square.

@freeschool
I know this website : )
I go perhaps a bit further... I try to stick to FOSS packages from distributions.

@tripu
It seems to me that their position dangerously underestimates the threat posed by big tech surveillance. They would lead us straight into the dystopian world of "Little brother" or similar books.

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Hadn't heard about the "software reporter tool" thing before - I don't know what data exactly it's sending to Google, but it sounds concerning.

The broader point is that if you use a piece of software made by an advertising company to access the web, that company will eventually abuse its power - if making Chrome is attractive to Google, then using Chrome cannot be good for you in the long term.

If you're looking for an alternative that is just a carbon copy of Chrome but without surveillance, use Ungoogled Chromium. Otherwise, you might give Firefox a try.

For Ungoogled Chromium, you need to do some maneuvering before you can install extensions.

For Firefox, there are some concerns about the priorities of Mozilla leadership.

There are other options, but the ones I've tried don't work for certain things, or only after messing with the settings a bunch.