John BS @johnabs@qoto.org

@freemo @trinsec Not with that trivalent carbon you aren't. :P

@astronomerritt I wrote an article on neurodivergence and the lack of neuro-inclusive design. Also, my wife has been officially diagnosed with autism ans adhd, and we suspect I’m on the spectrum as well (and I have aphantasia), though I’ve yet to be formally diagnosed.

I’m more than happy to discuss or link my article (or both) if you’re interested 😁

@mhamzahkhan In that case, I recommend FreeCAD, Shaper3d if you have an ipad, Sketchup, or Fusion360. There are loads of tutorials on the last 3, but they all cost some money. FreeCAD is completely FLOSS, but it's a bit of a doozy to learn and pilot.

Edit: Oh, and if you do MEK/solvent welding, you NEED a respirator with an organic vapor cartridge!!!

Having my first cheat meal on the carnivore diet after losing 35lbs. It's not going to be a regular thing, but man my head has been killing me the last few days due to poor sleep and I need a small break. Wish me luck that I can keep going, I have a bit more to go!

@mhamzahkhan 3d print+acetone/MEK welding?

@iska @stdevel Hmmm. I may need to check this out again!

I've made the transition from i3 to dwm to xmonad, but if this can get me to a dwm/i3 experience with as much stability as (or preferably more than) xmonad, I'll probably switch.

Re-building xmonad on guix is a nightmare, especially when someone changes an abstraction and I have to completely rewrite my config 😭

Does it handle multiple monitors well, and switching between monitors? And can you have multiple workspaces per monitor? Do you recommend anything from stumpwm-contrib?

@freemo

Right, but keep in mind that there is an inherent risk to having a "bad" man interested in you (as in, one who is unwilling to respect your decision if you don't consent to sexual or romantic behavior), so women are more risk averse (on average) in this area than men are, and with good reason since men (on average) are much stronger than women.

So for you touching may be where the line of discomfort is but that may be because you're confident in your ability to put a stop to things before they get out of hand. Now, imagine the woman staring at you was built like a 7 foot linebacker that had poor social skills and didn't understand the word "no", and who had a non-zero chance of forcing herself on you with you not being able to put up the necessary resistance. Perhaps at that point, you would be less comfortable with the staring too, because of the potential implication that it could go further than you want if not nipped in the bud.

@freemo No problem.

As for the question in terms of how she would feel: it depends on if she likes you. And this isn't a woman only thing.

Let's imagine the inverse scenario: you're wearing fairly tight shorts and *insert movie star/celebrity you find attractive here* walks up to you, eyes your bulge for "a solid 2 seconds" and then continues talking to you respectfully. Well, if you consider a lot of factors (e.g. are you married, is she married, do you find her attractive, etc) you'll come to a conclusion as to whether you appreciated the gesture (note this happens in milliseconds and is not a conscious decision). Now, imagine instead of *movie star/celebrity you find attractive* we have the human personification of Roz from Monster's Inc do the same thing. You may not appreciate the same gesture, because you may not find her attractive.

Now, let's imagine that in either of these scenarios, the woman in question asks you "hey, can I look at your bulge for a few seconds"? I imagine most men would respond either internally or externally in the following ways: a) is this a prank? Is she serious? Why would she want to? b) That's a really weird question to ask, and the fact that she did so means I kinda don't want her to, or c) Sure, ogle away. Though I suspect most people would fall into categories a or b.

So, overall, all people judge behaviors, particularly ones in a semi-intimate context, based on how the evaluate the person. If they like the person or are interested in them as a potential partner, this helps "smooth over any rough edges" the person in question may display. However, if a person has already judged you as someone they are either ambivalent towards or actively dislike, this magnifies the impact of behavior that is close to "the line" and may even move the line further away from this sort of behavior.

All this to say: you can't apply the same behavior to different contexts with different subjective personal preferences and expect the same result, so the question is kinda pointless unless you're directing it to a specific individual with a specific target and context in mind.

@freemo 2 whole seconds?? At that point just take a picture, it'll last longer :P

The general rule is "If the amount of time you're looking would damage your retinas from looking at the sun at noon during summer, it's too long of a glance". There is a difference between "noticing", "looking", "staring", and 2 solid seconds is straddling the line of the latter two, and the first is universally fine, but that's like 0.5-0.75 seconds.

As an aside, nearly all (more on this below) women know what they're signing up for when the go out dressed a certain way, so don't ask, don't stare, but a passing glance, even if she notices, is likely acceptable, though this depends on the woman and her understanding of male psychology as a function of her dressing habits.

I had to have this conversation with my (then girlfriend) wife about how she was drawing attention to herself with her very tight fitting crop-tops and short shorts. Her mom did some strange parenting to her daughters, so my wife didn't know until I spelled it out and then she was mortified at how men were looking at her. She just thought they were "being friendly" 🤦‍♂️

@queenofhatred No problem lol

I'm just trying to make some friends and learn stuff, but you don't need to feel sorry or obligated. Thanks for considering it though 😁

@queenofhatred Well I'm also trying to figure out lisp and be a better programmer (though not doing raytracing, admittedly).

If you want to do some programming together sometime so we can both learn some stuff, I'm down, and it may help us both build some better habits :)

@queenofhatred

I can 10000% relate. I had to change my career path about 6 years ago (twice), and now I'm just like "WHY IS THIS SO HARD WHEN EVERYONE ELSE MAKES IT SEEM SO EASY???"

And then I realize that, despite having 12 years of academic research experience, only 4 of those are in my new field (and I don't have a bachelors/masters in it either)...so then I feel at least a better about it. And then the cycle repeats the next week lmao.

What projects are you working on rn? Are you doing them in lisp or something else? Either way, I believe you can do it! 😁

@queenofhatred @lispi314 Agreed, I just wish their documentation was better 😭

@lispi314 I was just being silly, I agree that practically every language needs a REPL, especially as a lisp fan, lol.

@lispi314 It's because the devs hate anagrams, and frankly I agree 😂

@freemo Gotcha, just wanted to double check what units since the typo was ambiguous.

I used to teach dimensional analysis problems from the perspective of baking/buying stuff, and I got some of my nursing/agriculture students working out estimates mentally pretty quickly! It improved one girl's test scores by a whole letter grade after the tutoring sessions, so I took that as a win :)

@freemo
> morality of an acid.

Seems like you took a trip from chemistry into ethics with that one, though please do tell how you derive ethical maxims and cracked the "is-ought" problem 😂

(But forreal, did you mean molarity or molality? They should know that well before O-Chem...)

@freemo While I like the idea considering the STEM focus of the group, I would argue the name of the group demands a more philosophically oriented logo.

Perhaps something like Qo | ɟo where the t and o are mirrored, indicating the selfie reflective nature of the intended members, as well as the barrier that exists between coming to personal understanding of truth and conveying it to the rest of the world.

I can sketch something up later, but it’s my bedtime soon lol.