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A few weeks ago there was a young woman on the bus, she was crying and clearly upset, clutching her phone. At one time, she would have been asked if she was OK. As men we are now to terrified to get involved, so I simply ignored her, perhaps she was really upset, wanted help, or it was an act to catch out unsuspecting MEN so she could make some sort of false alegation, who knows.

Is this the society people want or do they want a more caring society, where people can ask if you are OK because they actually care or are concerned.

Next time I see a person (esp female) in distress, I will ignore them.

@zleap If you see a person who may be hurting, and your first thought is fear that it's a trap, that's an issue with you more than society.

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You sound a bit like this guy who told me that he can`t make compliments to women any more and just does not get the difference between, "your style is awesome" and "your shirt makes your beautiful breasts look even better".

@zleap This is a you problem. No one minds respectful concern. Ask politely if they’re OK, without moving into their personal space. If they say yes, you shut the fuck up. If they want to talk to you after that THEY will talk to you. @efi

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