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Please forgive me in advance if some amount of privilege sneaks through and oozes out the sides somewhere.

Okay, before today I kind of thought I was pretty woke, progressive, accepting, inclusive and reasonable individual.

When my daughter was around 15 it would appear that every girl in her class was a lesbian. As well the vast majority of the boys were claiming to be bi. One of her friends "came out" to her folks and was essentially disowned and kicked out of her house. I sat my daughter down and explained to her that I loved her and if the situation were to be such that she was a lesbian, I hope she would be the best possible lesbian she could be. I also explained to her the actual population percentages and the unlikelihood that every lesbian in our city all were in her class. :)

This situation all ironed itself out and as time went on the percentages much more closely resembled reality.

Now I have personally known, worked with and interacted with persons of all sorts of sexual orientations and choices. And I mean all sorts. I have never had any issue with being able to communicate about all sorts of topics. I have been a huge advocate for SSC, GGG, NGNL, LaLL, and all those other fun acronyms. :)

So I did my best to wrap my head around an explanation of a person's particular lot in life. This person, is an XY genetic male, Wishing to use PgPs of the feminine variety, and wants to be referred to as a girl. I could SMH a bit, but still I am okay. I ask some questions. The person does not dress as a girl. The person does not take any hormones or hormone suppressive therapy, nor has any intent to remove or reassign genitalia. I would venture to say, if I were to address this person on the street, I would have no clue whatsoever of the female choice.

Then here is the kicker. Hse goes on to explain that hse has a girlfriend with which they share a lesbian relationship.

There are some things coming to mind that at best would be crass, so I will hold my tongue. But try as I may, I can't wrap my head around what this all means.

I have no problem addressing any person as they wish to be. I have no judgement as to who they wish to love. And honestly the mechanics of which are none of my business.

I honestly want to be a person that is open minded, fair and accepting. But I can't see this as anything other than someone just hurting .... not a rational lifestyle choice or orientation or whatever the proper term might be.

@freemo great puzzle, but I would propose that you have physically numbered the jar/pots as well. If the room contains a jumble of un-ordered pots/jars you would have to have an agreed upon organization of the jars with your assistant. If neither of you sees the room ahead of time 100 jars can look pretty random.

Also, just a nit-picky thing. Call them jars or pots or something else, but it was confusing that you switched between the wording. I would just call them "clay pots" to avoid the see-through glass jar question, personally. :)

@freemo welcome. Who knew bee biology would be useful in a general conversation. :)

@freemo Dead colony.

When a queen is raised and she hatches she will go around and tear apart any other queen cells and kill any other virgin queens she can find. Then she goes away and has her mating flight where she will have sex with as many drones (from other colonies) as possible. Likely about 20 of them. They mate in flight. The drones break off their penis inside the queen and she stores all their sperm in her spermatheca. When she returns to the hive her pheromone will start the proper behaviors. However, if after that point the workers detect any problems with the queen they will begin making queen cells (they can make a queen cell with any fertilized egg under 3 days old.) In preparation for her demise. However, if she fails and they haven't created queen cells, or whatever, this is when you can get a laying worker. If they have a laying worker they will no longer try to make a queen cell, and the laying worker's eggs are not of any use to make females anyway, and she lays a whole bunch of them in a cell not just one.

Once they have no viable egg to make into a queen, the colony will die (unless the keeper introduces a new queen)

@freemo when the colony goes queen-less for some reason and her pheromones are not present to inhibit it, you can get a situation were a "worker" will begin laying eggs. It is a bad situation and difficult to correct.

@freemo I assume you are talking about honey bee. If the queen lays a fertilized egg it will be female. Her sterility is based on pheromones and the fact that she will have never had a mating flight, and her diet. Unfertilized eggs will make male (drones) which will not have a stinger. So, if she stung you, she is a she.
Just some bee biology for the morning. :)

@freemo "she"

@Surasanji true that

@Surasanji yeah, give the Goog's a little less to think about :)

@Surasanji but what does start page https://www.startpage.com/ or DuckDuckGo.com think about you?

@Melkora if they would sell and advertiser's would buy ad space they would already look like that. Or you may have discovered a tremendous 3rd party opportunity. I encourage you to start an Ezine.. Make it happen.

@p @Amber @ChristiJunior No matter, kind of makes me understand why the TERF types don't want to accept them

@p @Amber
That's what I thought, but I stopped knowing who was waving which flag for what message.

@Rovine my sister in law had a cat that could trigger me from her bay window while I was still in my car in the driveway :)