Demosthenes @Demosthenes@qoto.org

@Tel
More than just recognized as straight. I want to be recognized as masculine.

@Tel
The implication from your statement "As soon as anything is seen as something gays do, you aren't allowed to do it anymore under pressure of being cast out of masculinity" has the implication that trying to project a masculine identity separate from those which gays project is wrong. I _want_ to be recognized as masculine, which requires differentiation from some point.
"And why are you so terrified of doing anything that might seem gay?" The same reason trans people often dress in the norms of their gender. I want to be _recognized_ as straight since it is part of my identity. I take pride in it.

@Tel
You may have misgivings with talking with me, but I do appreciate you continuing the conversation despite it. We are all made better through careful discussion.
My fear with dressing and behaving femininely isn't that I will become gay, but rather that others will think or perceive me as gay. Given that my identity is masculine, that would be an affront.
Just as trans people are offended by getting told that they're a man when they're actually a woman, and just as saying that a woman is too manly is offensive, so too would perceiving me as gay. Hence why I take steps to avoid that.

@Tel
"People generally don't like it when you come into their mentions unprompted to start an argument with them"
I reply to public posts to start interesting discussions with people who think differently from me. If you want me to leave, say the word, but then I don't understand the purpose of making a post public.
"I'm saying people should be able to do what they like and you decided this was an attack on your choices"
You were saying that my choices to behave within the bounds of what I consider masculine is wrong. That's why I said what I did.

@magicalmilly
I'm out, peace lol

@magicalmilly
If you don't want people to discuss your posts, don't post them publicly, lol

@Tel
Perhaps you're right about the evopsych, I would love to discuss more about it without a fight. It's interesting to have a productive conversation with those who think differently from me.

I am making it about me because your post above shames me for my actions and beliefs. I am not trying to force my beliefs on others, I'm just trying to live my own life the best I can.

@magicalmilly
"Lose your sanctimonious act" you say as you dismiss my statements due to "mansplaining"

@Tel
This would be true if I were just living for myself. However, I live in a social environment where choices in my appearance broadcast social status signals and tribal affiliations. Evolutionarily, such signals would be evolutionarily adventagous since it would make working with your own tribe easier and make mate selection easier.
I choose to broadcast social signals that I consider to be masculine. Other people can make other choices, but I should have the freedom to make my own.

@magicalmilly
Ah yes, nothing like casual sexism to ignore any statements that you disagree with.
I was agreeing with you btw. Money warps perceptions, and that's an issue. If you weren't looking to be upset, you could have seen that.

@Tel
I don't cast out other people for having lisps, I just choose not to have one. Same with my clothes. Same with my exercise habits.
It's interesting how we are supposed to have a choice in how we represent ourselves, unless of course my choices don't align with yours.

@numi
You're absolutely right! I often tell myself that I need to stop making rambling posts so much, but it is just so hard. In fact, just last week, I was talking to my friend Susie about it but then realized that I was rambling to her for 15 minutes! It started off okay, but I just got carried away. Next thing you know, I'm telling her about the reptilians hiding under my mattress and realized that her eyes were completely glazed over! Not only that, but she was big, green, and asking for about $3.50. I was talking to the Loch Ness Monster again!
Anyway, that's why I keep my door locked when I leave the house now. What was I saying?

@EarlThePearls
Lol I know, I'm just goofing
Enjoy the show!

@kingu_platypus_gidora@octodon.social
The factory is supposed to remove those tabs after the injection molding process. It's interesting that they didn't do that here.

@magicalmilly
Trust me when I say that actually having money changes your perspective. Or at least it did for me.

When you have money, stresses melt away, and even if you were in poverty at one time, it becomes much harder to empathize with those who stress about money.

@HernanHenry
All evidence indicates Kyle was defending himself, yet the mainstream media has done their best to crucify him. That's why he's becoming a symbol

@EarlThePearls
That's french for "the tour."

The more you know

@darulharb
In the video, they're in the street. That's a public place.

@Tel
As a self-ascribred masculine guy, I'm okay with that. Masculinity is a state of mind, a pride in the male traits that I have. It is part of my identity, just as your identity is your own.

I like not wearing pink or having a lisp. I should have the freedom to make that choice without pressure from those who choose to live differently

@DeltaFlood
Yeah then I'd miss out on all the crazies, lol