I find it interesting what happens when somebody blocks you on fediverse.
- I send something
- Somebody calls it bs
- I point out it’s actually reality and try to engage in a conversation
- The person send a flurry of toots, calls me names and blocks me as I am still reading them.
And then fun starts.
- I see the person’s replies disappear, but my client still shows some of them in a chaotic order
- I try to reply, but my toots are orphans
- The person follows me, so I think they still engage
- I try to speak to him/her, to no avail
- My client shows I cannot follow them, while they follow me
- On their local timeline, the whole conversation is still intact, toots which seem deleted to me are still there
- After a while I realise the person probably blocked me without me understanding why that happened and I am speaking into a black hole.
I very well understand why blocking is there and why the sender had no way to know what’s going on. I would still prefer the person at least telling me they block me so that I know what’s going on.
Either way I think it’s very impolite do block people in as civilised conversation, just because they disagree without finishing it. That we are in a digital world does not mean we shall behave like jerks. Nobody is forcing that person to read my stuff and I certainly am not asking anybody to respond to whatever I have in mind. I learn something every day. Just today I learned something about strange behaviours of others.
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@FailForward The consequence of federated social media.. We should spin up a block bot though, those notify you when someone blocks you.
Usually i just click someones profile and refresh and if the follow button is inactivated I know they blocked me.
@freemo Aha, thanks for telling me about the button. That’s useful. I saw the button being disabled, but I wondered why that is the case, I thought that the person disabled follows on their side generally for some reason - as I had no reason to suspect he/she blocked me, the conversation from my side was pretty fine. As I said, I learn something new every day 🙂 .
Re the bot: that would be useful. The last time somebody blocked me, the person at least told as much before doing so. Although I was quite baffled about it too, but it’s anybody’s choice what they want to read of course.
Actually in this case I finally found that the person blocked me by FediLab telling me that speaking to them is futile. Qoto UI behaved rather chaotic. The responses of the person were (and still are) in my notifications, but when I click on each, they “dissappear”. And after I reload the page, they are there again. It’s a mess. This is some UI bug, or something, I suppose.
@FailForward There is a culture of drama on the internet sadly.. I think people think they get white knight points everytime they find someone they can decalre is “evil” whom they “vanquished” with a block… I wouldnt worry about it too much, they are usually just living some fantasy in their head and has little to do with you.
The disapearing notifications thing is common, it has to do with the timedelay of federation and tends to go away after some time. It may also be related to our subscribe feature which proactively tries to go out and fetch content regardless of an actual federated follow, which only stops once it gets notified you were blocked (which foreign servers dont always do and thus relies on periodic updates to become aware)
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Personally I don’t block people, out of principle. The only person that ever made it in my blacklist is my ex and she put in a lot of work to achieve this.
But then again, neither do I get emotional in arguments nor do I take part in said arguments on a regular basis.
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I'd rather someone block me than to try to dox me