The vast majority of users want #2, and as we all know it is critical for hte physical safety of our LGBTQ community... clearly Gargron couldnt give a shit that his stance would put our LGBTQ community in physical danger.... sad.
See here for details why (which was also relayed to him):
Well "forced" might be a strong word. But @Gargron runs joinmastodon and ultimately he is the one who stated our policy is unacceptable for listing there.
That said I could list for you the instances that have been engaging in toxic nonsense but you can read my timeline and get a sense of that yourself
giving Mastodon a gatekeeper role to Fediverse is a bad thing, Mastodon ≠ Fediverse