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What I find interesting, is that in India, there isn't a social norm of moving out of parent's house after 18, unlike many other countries.
Maybe because of the large population leading to high rates of housing.
I guess, that's another reason why our Desi parents want us to act like grown-ups but treat us like babies at the same time.

@_lunawinters Thats cute. Is there a more common age to move out or is it typical to live with your parents for life?

@freemo not really.
For almost all the girls, till marriage, they stay with their parents.
For almost all the boys, till and after marriage, they *have* to live with their parents just to please them.
Although, nowadays, the trend is changing.

@freemo @_lunawinters For most cases it is live with your parents for life! Even on the so called standards of Society it is assumed respectful that you're staying with your parents even after you've started earning!

@_lunawinters That's a good observation. I have thought about it a lot too!

And it is also one of the reasons why Parents are so into one's life (which is very good but at times really hinders one's growth as a mature man/woman)

@shibaprasad as much as their role is important, one's privacy should be respected too.

@_lunawinters Indians that I know (including my own parents) lack the will to change.
But Why would they? They get so comfortable with their customs and traditions, they end up losing their identity.
Study- get a job- marry- birth a ton of Kids- make the kids study- repeat.
Doesn't sound so bad in paper, but so effin mechanical. Our society has zero respect for environment or SCIENCE. We take things for granted.
But like always, things are changing.

@Karthikdeva and confronting social norms is seen as rebellious.
The newer generation is changing for good.

@_lunawinters do you know , we only grown-up when there is talk about our marriage in house. . rest of all the time we are just kids .... we don't even no how to eat...

@Chetanbadhe even after the marriage, parents will poke us for a grandchild. Well, privacy गयी भाड़ में

@_lunawinters @Chetanbadhe it sucks that they gaslight us with this guilt feeling each time we feel rebellious enough to do anything.

@Tallymark90 @Chetanbadhe yes. When we confront them, they make us feel like we are brats, stupid and useless.

@_lunawinters @Chetanbadhe And the worst part, we aren't even rebellious. We just want to live. By our own terms. And that is looked down. Sucks!!

@_lunawinters it's mostly because Indian parents like to dehumanise their kids by treating them like a retirement policy or a pension plan. This is how I feel as a guy, along with many others I know. This is also why baby girls are usually unwanted, since they're suppose to move out. it's just the disgusting mindset and a pathetic culture.

@akash parents in india have kids so that those kids can take care of them during old age.

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