Compass and Straight Edge @compass_straight_edge@qoto.org

@velartrill I think this is largely due to two factors, the popularity of post-modernism (the ideology, not the alias for "stuff i don't like") and the cult/group mentality enabled by social media.

Post-modernism as an epistemological relativistic ideology (i.e. subjective idealism) states that all interpretations of reality are equally valid and that empirical evidence has little to no value. When this is put together with the ability of social media to dehumanize others and create mobs we have the quick and strong rise of the "narrative" that manages to acquire enough acceptance first. From there anyone that deviates from this line of though is quickly cut off, or "cancelled", by the mob.

Of course the fact that the fact that people in general have poor critical capacity, due to the deficient education system in most countries, doesn't help much either.

Why and how post-modernism managed to gain so much acceptance is still a puzzle to me.

The fact that dumb 13 year old kids from /b/ "warned" me about this as early as 2012 makes me feel weird.

gamers rise up i guess?

@velartrill I never considered Abraham Maslow as pop psychology.
Anyways, I'm not defending the author, I'm just autistic. And that was not the most interesting comment. I'm still searching for a last one.

@velartrill That's not my definition, it's a common term in psychology. It appeared in the mid if the 20th century, idk when that book was written though.
I don't even know what book that is.

@velartrill Self-Actualization actually can mean all of that you said but by taking it as having a "successful career" then I agree with your discontent.

In the most general sense self-actualization is just the pursuit of one's ultimate goals, trying to become the person you envision yourself as. The process of self-actualization is often called "becoming who you are". In your case, nourishing a relationship and taking care of your SO and kids would be a process of self-actualization.

Normies can be defined in many ways but they are usually mundane and not driven people. Happy with just living one day after the other.
You on the other hand seem to be very driven, particularly to developing relationships. Idk if this is because of bpd as you say, but from personal experience I can say that, were the values to which you are driven different , the observation about normies would still be the same.

@velartrill "fill a valuable and necessary role, to know your exact place in the world and be comfortable in it"
That could be described as someone's fullest human potential. But I don't have the context of that quote so idk.