Followed a bunch of (mostly new) people.
Realized that the thing that stopped me from using the birdsite - constant negativity and drama and people dunking on each others tribes - was starting to happen here too and making the site less appealing to me.
Went ahead and unfollowed every single person that was making my feed unpleasant, whether by themselves or by boosts.
I'd rather have a feed that has no updates in an hour, than one that has fifty updates and half of them bad for my #mentalhealth.
🇳🇱
@digital_carver look after yourself first man... likely the drama will die down though, we will see.
@freemo
Honestly, I probably would have disengaged from the Fediverse/Mastoverse a long time ago - or at best had a mostly dormant account (like I do on the birdsite) - because of stuff like this, if not for #QOTO.
To my knowledge, this is the instance that comes closest to having the culture that Hacker News wants to have:
> Eschew flamebait. Avoid generic tangents.
> Be kind. Don't be snarky. Have curious conversation; don't cross-examine. Please don't fulminate. Please don't sneer, including at the rest of the community.
(from https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html)
So, thank you, for creating an environment for those of us that want to have genuine and curious conversations.
@digital_carver@qoto.org6 @freemo Indeed, closest instance to comms style around beginnings of internet.
Ok i lived then on IRC, plus for longr physical while in NY, is why i failed coom:
@digital_carver @freemo Yes, indeed. It's not that hard to be polite and civil. I am occasionally snarky and sarcastic with friends that I know well enough but not with others.
A good lesson is to watch posts by The Onion (snark, sarcasm, parody). Despite the fact they're famous and have been doing it for 25 years, often more than half the responses are from people who don't get the sarcastic humor, don't realize that it is humor.
You are right I should be more civil, but when dishonesty is being institutionalized, I get mighty noisy. I think of President John Adams, known for being obnoxious and disliked.
@digital_carver It makes me happy to hear you feel this way. We do try our best to keep things civil.