Thanks for your advice everyone! My wife and I finally got a bit of a break to regroup and think out a new strategy we'll be trying once our puppy gets back from our in-laws this weekend. She's having a blast with their 5 kids, and we think something that really excites her and tires her out is meeting new people, which we'll try to incorporate into her routine!
She already learned fetch which helps with her activity needs, and after spending some time with their boys she was just tuckered out. Worst case scenario, she seems like a great fit for their family, since they have so many hands on deck to keep her occupied, but we're going to do our best to provide an awesome home for this dog and play it by ear with my in-laws too!
@johnabs @Pat @zpartacoos @namark
Eventually you'll need to pass on the puppy or have it for a last supper.
[joke]
The mismatch is too wide in distance to actively maintain / prioritise monitoring it - though I'm all for trying a bit more too.
Just think of ways to do that slowly and between you agree perhaps that if someone wants it you already know the answer.
Ideally a place where it fits more naturally with activity of puppy and people around, like a bigger family who has more kids...
something like that I think going forward...